Hi there, today we're going to talk about holding hands. Eye contact is usually the first link in almost any human interaction, but the first physical contact will probably involve the touch of hand to hand.It's usually the initial physical contact to reveal positive intentions and establish some intimacy and trust.When we reach our hand in greetings we acknowledge the person before us and show some confidence in them, in return we expect to receive the same treatment.
Today, I assume that it comes much more naturally and easily than in the first time, but the effects and benefits of holding hands are still relevant even if you're married for years. You can read this study that involves happy couples, electrical shocks and holding hands (bizarre I know! When a couple is going hand in hand in public they send a message to others around that they are together, not up for grabs. When someone is acting like us (in a subtle fashion, not mimicking us! It's only natural to like people who are similar to us because it makes us feel good about ourselves.
In this case, both individuals have to match their walking speed and rhythm of movement in order to walk comfortably. Generally speaking yes, it's more physically and emotionally bonding than simply walking hand in hand.
But it doesn't apply to everyone, some people just uncomfortable doing it. And since we mentioned discomfort - let's remember that not everyone is comfortable holding hands in public.
You might remember the anxious anticipation to hold the hand of your first girl\boyfriend.
It was the next 'big step' to reveal if they really like you and want you around.
Absurd images of rejection probably went through your mind as you tentatively and very consciously wrapped your hand around theirs.Insignificant and stupid as it might look today, it was probably your first attempt in building romantic physical intimacy. It releases Oxytocin - an hormone that cements long term relationship and raises the amount of affection in a couple. If you're already in one such happy relationship then holding hands has a reassuring effect by reducing stress hormones. Holding hands is a declaration of devotion to each other. Rapport in body language is built around mirror imagining - matching each other's gestures and posture.To hold hands with our loved one is the "advanced form" for that matter - it shows more permanent fondness, rapport, respect, concern, trust and perhaps romantic feelings.But as many things in body language, this expression of affection is not that simple.It seems to us that it's OK to hold one's hand but not the other, even if we like them both very much. An heterosexual man in the western culture will almost never hold hands with another man, that's why the photo of George W Bush holding hands with the Crown Prince Abdullah of Saudi Arabia hit waves in the US, but was received calmly in the Arab culture. What does it mean to hold hands in different contexts and of course, how can we apply it in our daily lives.The most obvious meaning for this gesture is the involvement of romance.